People Pleasing is a Self-Sabotaging Act

As humans, we all want to be liked. However, if pleasing others hinders our business, sense of self, or well-being, we must reevaluate. Today, host May Yeo Silvers lays out how to move past our people-please tendencies that get in the way of our own goals. 

 

May has repeatedly seen people lose who they are to make others happy, but if you’re a business owner who does this, you may lose out financially. As much as we want to do right by our clients, that should not mean that we have to lower our prices or alter how we work when we invest so much of our time and effort into our work. Instead, be clear about your operations and deliverables because it’s much more important to attract the right people than the wrong people at the cost of ourselves. 

 

Although no one wants to be judged, remember that always putting others above yourself is a self-sabotaging act. Tune into this week’s episode of The Unstoppable Eventrepreneur for concrete examples of people-pleasing in both business and relationships and what you can do to stop being afraid of saying what you want. 

 

Quotes

• “Self-development is a constant learning experience and work that I do every single day.” (2:49-2:58 | May)

• “It is normal to want to be a people pleaser. But if it hinders who you are as a person and as a business owner, it is going to cost you financially, emotionally, mentally, and physically.” (3:06-3:36 | May) 

• “I’m not afraid to let the client know this is how I work, why I work this way, and the results I can deliver. I'm not afraid to be a straight shooter. There's a difference between being rude versus being clear.”  (10:38-10:54 | May) 

• “It's important to attract the people you want to work with. But it’s equally important to repel the people you don't want to work with. So by being who you truly are and expressing your thoughts, opinions, and personality, you will connect with people who are your people.” (15:09-15:36 | May) 

• “You can't control what people think, say, and feel about you. But you can control how you feel, what you think and say, and how you can be a better person in the long run.” (20:05-20:18 | May) 

 

Links

Connect with me at: may@events4anyone.com

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